Leah's Story

So I was paging thru some old blogs, and came across my most updated “list”.  The list of characteristics I most admire in a romantic partner. Yes, that list.  I made my first list in 2004. The relationship I entered soon after making that list, was near perfect; when that relationship ended I realized I had forgotten to add MONOGAMOUS to the list. :)

I used to write about characteristics, tattoos, cool hair, tall, great eyes… but in 2007 I read
Catherine Woodward Thomas’ “Calling In The One”, and she suggested focusing on qualities rather then characteristics. Sure, I’d still like a guy with tats, but I’ve refined my list to focus on the more valuable, long-term characteristics of a partner. 

My friend Andrew Brewer recently met his soul-mate, and one of his fb posts today inspired me to dig up the ‘ole list and do so more refining.

This is what I came up with…

The Top 25 Qualities That I Want In A Husband

Intelligent
Humourous
Spiritual
Passionate
Adventurous
Spontaneous
Sensitive
Creative
Strong
Independent
Confident
Social
Charming
Sexy
Loving
Nurturing
Productive
Imaginative
Risk-Taker
Family-Oriented
Optimistic
Happy
Edgy
Charitable
Sense of Style

I’ve bolded my top five.
Which she (Woodward), then suggests writing a promise to yourself in regard to each of those qualities in your own life.

1). I promise to live a Charitable life. Giving as much as I can to those in need, lending a hand when I can, contributing time, or simply spreading the word about good causes and charitable events. 

2). I promise to be Nurturing.  To those around me, but most importantly to myself.  Recognizin when my body, mind, soul, or heart, needs to recoup and rebuild. Recognizing when a loved one needs a hug, or simply a smile.

3). I promise to be Passionate. Choosing to surround myself with people, places, and events that inspire me to be even more passionate.

4). I promise to be Spiritual.  Seeking out new thoughts, new communities, and focusing on the things that make my soul sing, that ignite my heart to seek oneness with all.

5). I promise to be Intelligent.  Using my god-given talents to make the wisest decisions personally and professionally, and to nurture my intelligence with culture, art, and literature.

And so … I re-affirm…

Who I am is love and I am attracting in the love of my life in this very moment.

Who I am is love and I am attracting in the love of my life in this very moment.

Who I am is love and I am attracting in the love of my life in this very moment.

Who I am is love and I am attracin in the love of my life in this very moment.

He’s out there, I know he his.

He’s handsome, smart, funny, strong, spontaneous, daring..
A thrill-seeker, a mover/shaker, a friend to all, a kind soul, a lover of animals and travel….
He’s artistically inclined, with a technological side..
He loves music of all types, and enjoys live music, and theater.
He’s stylish and put together.
He has a tool-kit, and the know-how for (minor) home repairs. He’s financially independent, and will contribute to my desire to eat healthy, work-out regularly, remain sober (mostly), and grow spiritually.

But most importantly, he loves me.
Unconditionally, passionately, fervently, and is committed to living the rest of our journey here on earth, as a successful, loving, dynamic, powerful, team…
in love with each other, with ourselves, and with our future.

Time For Accupuncture! :)

Look what was waiting for me after finishing my Bikram Challenge! My Mommy made it for me! :) http://plixi.com/p/67961702

Goodnight Moon.

(2009 in Questions, ’08 and ’07 are missing, 2006 in Questions, 2005 in Questions, and 2004 in Questions. )

1. What did you do in 2010 that you’d never done before?
*Learned how to fire-dance with Poi thru a beggining class with FireGroove
*Co-Produced a fundraising benefit for Haiti Relief
*Created and Produced Livin’ On A Dream, an inspirational talk-show web-series
*Moderated a Voice-Over Panel featuring Rob Paulson (Pinky & The Brain)
*Auditioned for Oprah Winfrey
*Attended the 70th Anniversary of Sturgis, South Dakota as Press, and got to interview many of the artists backstage.
*Photographed Guns ‘N Roses from the photo-pit during their first and only US Show since 2006.
*Spoke as a filmmaker on a Horror Panel at the FreakShow Horror Festival
*Subletted my house in LA, and drove 3000 miles cross-country with 2 kitties and a Mustang
*Auditioned for QVC
*Won LASIK Eye Surgery
*Worked for the US Census Bureau
*Started Accupuncture
*Worked in Times Square on New Year’s Eve

2. Did you keep your 2010 resolutions? Will you make more for 2009?

I’m more about mottos, mantras, affirmations and goals then “resolutions”.  2010 had a lot of ups and downs; professionally and personally.  2011 is currently about getting helathier, happier, and getting out of my own damn way so I can shine brightly!

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Nope!

4. Did anyone close to you die?
No.

5. What countries did you visit?
Just the US, however I drove from Los Angeles to Philadelphia, and then from Philadelphia to Orlando, and from Philadelphia, to Worcester, Ma, so that has to count for something.

6. What would you like to have in 2011 that you lacked in 2010?

Same as last year.  A great representation, more work, more income and a lover

7. What date from 2009 will remain etched upon your memory and why?

August 13th— Sturgis!

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

I created a web-series, and a new Vlog. I won LASIK eye surgery.
I put a plan together, and I accomplished it; subletted my place and drove cross-country on my own.

9. What was your biggest failure?
I lost control of my health/weight/body. Got depressed and used food to try to fill the void and ended up gaining 60 pounds the first 9 months of 2010.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Nope

11. Whose behavior merited celebration?

I suppose my own, for realizing I needed a change of scenery, and having the strength, courage, and wisdom to seek some renewal time and take care of myself.

12. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
A business partner or two that will remain unnamed.  I former best-friend as well.

13. Where did most of your money go?

Gas Money!

14. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

Sturgis, South Dakota, the Oprah Contest, The Revolver Contest, The Lasik Contest! :)  This was a year of contests!

16. Compared to this time last year, are you:

a) happier or sadder?

This is tough, I suppose sadder, yet more aware of my feelings, and more authentic with my feelings at any given moment.

b) thinner or fatter?

40 pounds heavier. I gained 60 at the beginning of 2010, I’ve lost 20 at the end of 2010.. 40 more to go.

c) richer or poorer?

Same

17. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Act! Make Money! Write! Kiss! and Make Love!

18. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Waste time on the internet…  Cry

19. How will you be spending Christmas?

I spent Christmas at my parents house in Aston, PA with my brothers and sisters and their families.

20. Did you fall in love in 2009?

Nope

21. What was your favorite TV program?

TRUE BLOOD, DEXTER

22. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?

Nah

23. What was the best book you read?

I really enjoyed Eat, Pray, Love.

24. What was your greatest musical discovery?
Hmm… I can’t say I fell in love with any new artists this year.

25. What did you want and get?

LASIK EYE SURGERY! Press Passes to Sturgis!  Adventure!
Hiatus from LA

26. What did you want and not get?

A steady acting/hosting gig, a lover.

27. What was your favorite film of this year?

KICK-ASS!

28. What did you do on your birthday? How old were you?

I turned 36. I went to Runyan Yoga. Had lunch at the Rainbow with friends. Went To the Korean Day Spa with girlfriends, and had dinner at the SaddleRanch with more friends where I proceeded to sing karoake AND ride the bull.  On the way home Lou Dawson and I snuck into Runyan Park after hours to pee, and got chased by the cops! :)  (We got away!)

29. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Steadier work = Steadier Income

30. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2009?

Jeans, long skirts, jean jackets, more bracelets, flip-flops

31. What kept you sane?

Yoga, Class Rules, Family, Friends, Mentors, DRIVING..

32. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

I really admire Leonardio DiCaprio and Jon Bon Jovi for their charitable causes and use of celebrity in a good way.

33. What political issue stirred you the most?

Eh, Sarah Palin kind of sucks. Wiki-Leaks

34. Who did you miss?

Can I say me for this one? 

35. Who was the best new person you met?

Ally Hulton, hands-down.

36. What valuable life lesson did you learn in 2009?

Nothing lasts forever, decisions can be made and changed, and that my own happiness is more important then anything.

37. What song lyrics sum up your year?
I can’t think of one, which is so rare for me, cause music means so much.
Hmmm